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Post by Lady on Dec 13, 2009 14:37:02 GMT -6
I have a few problems with my husband. Mostly Jelousy issues really. Not sure if this is a place too go though.
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Post by macawol on Dec 13, 2009 16:25:30 GMT -6
It is so unfortunate with jealousy issues, that it bounds in a low self-esteem, and the only permanent way to deal with it, is talk both between partners and with a therapist.
It might sound a bit drastic with the therapist, but it is just easier to stop it blowing up in everybody's faces.
Of course the jealousy could actually be a sign of some bigger problem, such as depression or stress, in which case professional help is needed as fast as possible.
Same time next week?
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Post by andrewlee on Dec 13, 2009 16:30:32 GMT -6
I don't mean to but in......jealousy can also indicate some serious insecurity issues!!!!! Fear of the jealous person about losing their loved one can make them act possessive and have control issues!
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Post by Atoz 77 on Dec 14, 2009 9:16:41 GMT -6
You didn't say who is jealous of who, but I should also point out that men in particular, once they are married, start to second-guess themselves. They start looking around at all the other good-looking women, thinking, Was it really such a good idea to commit? I agree that talking to him about it is the best thing to do.
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Post by andrewlee on Dec 14, 2009 9:36:56 GMT -6
You didn't say who is jealous of who, but I should also point out that men in particular, once they are married, start to second-guess themselves. They start looking around at all the other good-looking women, thinking, Was it really such a good idea to commit? I agree that talking to him about it is the best thing to do. Very well put Atoz!! If this isn't properly dealt with, it will most likely get worse!! I have been in this situation of second guessing myself and my decision. In some relationships that were bad, I thought about how much of a terrible mistake I had made and tried to learn from it. In a good one, seeing someone who looked attractive, but didn't have personality or had bad behaviors made me confident that I had made a good choice!
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Post by macawol on Dec 14, 2009 9:38:45 GMT -6
Actually it is scientifically proved that short men are normally more prone to jealousy, as tall women is.
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Post by Lady on Dec 14, 2009 11:21:54 GMT -6
I'm not really sure what too do with things really it is all very confusing.
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Post by macawol on Dec 14, 2009 12:16:53 GMT -6
I'm not really sure what too do with things really it is all very confusing. Of course you are. Jealousy is actually a very egoistic emotion, that means a need to own and control the other person, while none of us are immune to that sensation, understanding makes it easier to handle.
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Post by Lady on Dec 14, 2009 12:21:09 GMT -6
Yeah I guess you are right.
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Post by andrewlee on Dec 14, 2009 12:23:00 GMT -6
Actually it is scientifically proved that short men are normally more prone to jealousy, as tall women is. I have never heard of this before. Where did you find this info ?
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Post by macawol on Dec 14, 2009 13:34:24 GMT -6
Actually it is scientifically proved that short men are normally more prone to jealousy, as tall women is. I have never heard of this before. Where did you find this info ? In the psychology section of a science magazine. Most human behaviour is actually based on old primitive instincts. Quite interesting. I like learning all those little things about people's psychology.
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Post by andrewlee on Dec 14, 2009 13:38:04 GMT -6
I have never heard of this before. Where did you find this info ? In the psychology section of a science magazine. Most human behaviour is actually based on old primitive instincts. Quite interesting. I like learning all those little things about people's psychology. You are right in stating that this is interesting! I have studied psychology for years. There is often times something new or something unknown to be discovered.
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